Women's Support Page


Men and Women Think Differently
It is easiest to show you a video that explains the differences.  I am sure you will
enjoy this clip from Mark Gungor: Just click here.
            

What Husbands Need
Click HERE for a list of emotional needs from Marriage Builders.  Print it
out and ask your husband to number his priorities, starting with '1' for most
important and going through '10'.  Pick the top three and see that he gets
them met on a regular basis.   Throw in the others from time to time,
especially if you share some in common!

Help for Women
Need some support to keep you going?  In this area, I share with you ideas
and tips to improve your relationships.  Richard and I have been married
over forty years now.  It hasn't been all fun, but it has been worth it.  I hope
you are encouraged by these helps.  You also might want to read some of
our articles on relationships.

                          Susan Ward

How to Get What You Want
See above.  Hopefully, you have begun to understand how he thinks and
are making an effort to meet his needs.  Now make your own list of needs,
prioritized from '1' to '10' and show it to him.  Ask nicely that he review
your needs and tell him how loved it makes you feel when he is meeting the
most important ones. Make sure you ask at a time when neither of you is
too tired, hungry or upset to be reasonable.  Don't get frustrated when he
forgets.  Remind him regularly!

It may take awhile.
Marriage problems may be caused by many things:  response to childhood
traumas, lack of communication or relationships skills, faulty beliefs, and
stresses in life are just a few I can name.  It took awhile to develop your
problems and it will take time to rebuild trust and affection again.  Do not
be discouraged.  If you do not quit, you will succeed!  

Marriage Relationship skills classes prepare you to have and maintain
healthy relationships.  Check out classes available at our Workshops and
Classes.  

Individual cognitive counseling and prayer can help you overcome the
childhood problems that can sabotage your adult relationships.  

CAUTION:  
If your husband has been abusive or engages in risky behavior, it may not
be advisable to continue in a close relationship with him.  Consider
separation and counseling right away.  Seek professional help.

There are MAJOR differences in sexual attitudes
and responses.
These differences are neurological and hormonal and effect the way  we
perceive and respond to sexual cues and behaviors.

Example: Seeing an attractive female gives guys a real mental "zing", just
like taking a drug would do.  Solution: practice the 'two second rule'.  If he
can't avoid looking, after two seconds he must look away and refocus on
something else.  This is a necessary discipline for success in committed
relationships.  Be sensitive to a man's responses and do not wear revealing
clothing in public.

Example: For women, having sex stimulates the release of the "bonding"
hormone, oxytocin, producing a level of commitment in women that does
not happen in men.  Solution: Save sex for marriage. Hint:  Men's
commitment grows in a relationship slowly.  If he has not made a formal
commitment, he is NOT committed.