Children who come in for counseling and children of
divorce frequently express anger inappropriately
because they do not know how to express their
emotions safely.

There are several things you can do to help your child
learn to manage his anger.  First, accept that anger is
normal.    It is a secondary emotion that comes from
hurts and fears and other negative emotions.  It is
necessary for protection.  Ask your child:  "What is
causing your anger?"  "What other feelings do you
have?"  "What can you do about the problem?"  "How
can I help you?"

Listen to what your child has to say.  It is important. It
helps to calm the child.  Listening shows that you care.  
It is a form of love.  Interrupt and ask for a softer voice
if needed.  Send him to his room for a timeout if
needed.  Repeat what your child says in a similar tone
of voice to show your child you understand at least a
little of his concerns.  Ask the above questions.  Save
advice until after you have listened.  If there will be
negative consequences for the child's continued
behavior, give the child a warning about what may
happen.  Most of all, be kind.

Problems at home, at school or with friends and events
they have not told you about can contribute to your
child's anger.  It is important to be a "safe"
person for your child, so they will feel safe sharing
their thoughts and experiences with you.  A "safe"
person listens, reflects, does not react negatively,
encourages the child, and offers positive alternative
thoughts and options.  A "safe" person knows how to
"make lemonade out of lemons."

We have written a book for parents to read with their
children to help teach them the fundamentals of
emotional control, and anger management.  
Originally, it was for children, but adults and teens are
also asking for it.  We call it:

"THE ANGER BOOK FOR KIDS"

You are ANGRY!
You are GREEN with RAGE!
What do you do???

Where does all that rage come from?  Your other
feelings!  Are you ever afraid?  Do you ever feel lonely
and unloved?  Do people ignore you?  Would you like
for people to listen to you more?

This book will:
Help you understand your feelings
Help you handle your anger
Explain how your thoughts make feelings
Teach you how to pray for answers
Teach you what the Bible says about your feelings

Written with Bible references to demonstrate each
feeling and God's love for you, this book will help you  
see yourself the way God sees you.  

See the Products page for ordering information.  


Kids and Anger